Would You Rather Questions for Couples

How the game works

1. Write your names on your pawns, then play on one phone or send a link.
2. Each card is a fork in the road. One of you picks, makes a secret call on the other, and shuts their eyes. Then the other does the same.
3. Your pawns walk the road, and your two picks write the ending. Read it out.
4. A wrong call costs a toll: you answer that card’s question. Three right calls in a row unlocks the director’s cut.
5. After the last fork, see the road you walked, the film it made, the endings you missed, and a poster to send.

On this page

One question, three endings

Most would you rather lists stop at the question. Here the fun starts when your two answers meet, so every question below has an ending for both of you going one way, both of you going the other, and for splitting. The first in each group is open. Tap any other to read all three. In the examples the two of you are called Sam and Alex.

Funny would you rather questions for couples (18)

Small daily wars, which is where most couples do their best comedy. They work because you both already know the answer about the other one. Good for a car ride, a long line, or a dinner that has gone quiet.

• 1. 1There’s one blanket and two of you. Would you rather hog it and deny everything, or freeze and bring it up for years?

     You both say “Hog it and deny everything”

     You both pulled. The blanket lost.

     You both say “Freeze and bring it up for years”

     Neither of you took it. It lay between you all night like a border.

     You split

     Sam took the blanket. Alex froze, and has the date written down.

     Then talk about it

     Who really takes the blanket? Evidence only.

  2. 2Your show has a new episode and they’re away. Would you rather wait for them, or watch ahead and fake the gasp?

     You both say “Wait for them, however long”

     You both waited. Season four sits there, untouched, like a shrine.

     You both say “Watch ahead and fake the gasp”

     You both watched ahead and gasped on cue. Two liars, one couch.

     You split

     Alex watched ahead. Sam waited, then spotted the fake gasp.

     Then talk about it

     What else have you watched ahead on? This is a safe space.

  3. 6You get a text that says “we need to talk”. Would you rather call back right away, or panic quietly for three hours?

     You both say “Call back right away”

     You both called back before reading the rest. It was about the recycling.

     You both say “Panic quietly for three hours”

     You both panicked for three hours. It was about the recycling.

     You split

     Sam called right back. Alex drafted a speech. It was about the recycling.

     Then talk about it

     What text from each other would actually scare you?

  4. 7Their aunt is telling that story about you, and she has it wrong again. Would you rather laugh along, or correct the facts?

     You both say “Laugh along”

     You both laughed along. The aunt added a sequel.

     You both say “Correct the facts”

     You both corrected the facts. The aunt has stopped speaking to anyone.

     You split

     Sam laughed along. Alex stood up with the real timeline.

     Then talk about it

     Which story about you two always gets told wrong?

  5. 8They’ve loaded the dishwasher wrong. Would you rather reload it in silence, or leave it and stay happy?

     You both say “Reload it, in silence”

     You both reloaded it. Separately. Twice.

     You both say “Leave it and stay happy”

     Nothing has been properly clean since March. You’ve never been happier.

     You split

     Sam reloaded it in silence. Alex now loads it wrong on purpose.

     Then talk about it

     Is there a right way to load it? Settle this now.

  6. 10You’re at a party you both dreaded. Would you rather give the secret signal at nine, or stay till they turn the lights on?

     You both say “Give the secret signal at nine”

     The signal went at nine. You were both in the car by 9:04.

     You both say “Stay till they turn the lights on”

     You stayed till the lights came on. You helped stack the chairs.

     You split

     Sam gave the signal at nine. Alex pretended not to see it, twice.

     Then talk about it

     Do you two have a signal? You need one. Pick it now.

  7. 11They’ve made your worst photo their wallpaper. Would you rather let them keep it, or delete it and blame an update?

     You both say “Let them keep it”

     You each kept the worst photo of the other. Mutually assured destruction.

     You both say “Delete it and blame an update”

     Both photos gone. Neither of you checked the cloud.

     You split

     Sam let it go. Alex deleted it, not knowing about the cloud.

     Then talk about it

     Show each other your worst photo of them. Right now.

  8. 13There’s a huge spider in the tub. Would you rather catch it yourself, or move out together?

     You both say “Catch it yourself”

     You both reached for the glass. The spider left on its own, embarrassed.

     You both say “Move out together”

     You both moved out. The spider has the apartment now.

     You split

     Sam caught the spider. Alex supervised from the hallway, then took the credit.

     Then talk about it

     Who’s the brave one at home, really?

  9. 22You’ve recorded their snoring. Would you rather play it at breakfast, or save it for the anniversary toast?

     You both say “Play it at breakfast”

     You both pressed play. It was a duet.

     You both say “Save it for the anniversary toast”

     Two recordings, saved. It’s a stand-off now, and neither of you will blink.

     You split

     Sam played it over the pancakes. Alex is saving a better one.

     Then talk about it

     What do you do in your sleep? Tell the truth.

  10. 23Getting ready to go out: would you rather always be ready and waiting, or always be late and worth it?

      You both say “Always be ready and waiting”

      Two people in coats, by the door, for an hour. You missed nothing.

      You both say “Always be late and worth it”

      You have never once seen the start of anything together.

      You split

      Sam stood by the door in a coat. Alex said “two minutes” for forty minutes.

      Then talk about it

      What’s the longest “two minutes” on record?

  11. 24The thermostat war: would you rather sweat all winter and say nothing, or turn it down and hear about it?

      You both say “Sweat all winter, say nothing”

      You both sweated in silence. The plants have never looked better.

      You both say “Turn it down and hear about it”

      You both turned it down. You now wear hats indoors and call it cozy.

      You split

      Sam sat there sweating. Alex kept sneaking down the hall to turn it off.

      Then talk about it

      What’s the quiet war you two are having right now?

  12. 25There’s one charger left. Would you rather give it up and let your phone die, or take it and hide the cable?

      You both say “Give it up, let your phone die”

      You both offered it. Both phones died. You talked, for once.

      You both say “Take it and hide the cable”

      You both hid it from each other. It hasn’t been seen since.

      You split

      Sam gave it up. Alex has had a full battery ever since.

      Then talk about it

      Who’s really taking the charger? Check the nightstand.

  13. 26Building a flat-pack dresser: would you rather read every instruction aloud, or build it by feel, six screws spare?

      You both say “Read every instruction aloud”

      You read it aloud to each other. The dresser took four days. It’s perfect.

      You both say “Build it by feel, six screws spare”

      It stands. It leans. Six screws live in a jar, and the jar is not discussed.

      You split

      Sam read out step nine. Alex had finished, and had six screws left.

      Then talk about it

      What’s the thing you two should never build together?

  14. 33Your song comes on in a store. Would you rather dance in the aisle, or pretend you’ve never met?

      You both say “Dance in the aisle”

      You danced in the aisle. A small child clapped. Security didn’t.

      You both say “Pretend you’ve never met”

      You walked past each other like strangers. It was weirdly romantic.

      You split

      Sam danced by the cereal. Alex became very interested in soup.

      Then talk about it

      What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve done together in public?

  15. 46You can have one space all to yourself. Would you rather take the whole living room, or one tiny room nobody else may enter?

      You both say “Take the whole living room”

      Two designs, one living room. A line of tape runs down the middle.

      You both say “Take one tiny room, no entry”

      Two tiny rooms. You text each other goodnight through the wall.

      You split

      Sam took the living room. Alex took the closet and put a lock on it.

      Then talk about it

      What would you keep out of your home if you could?

  16. 47Would you rather get a dog that only ever loves your partner, or a cat that only just tolerates you?

      You both say “Get a dog that only loves them”

      You got a dog. It’s devoted to one of you, and you’re both sure which.

      You both say “Get a cat that only tolerates you”

      You got a cat. It tolerates you both and holds the deed.

      You split

      Sam wanted the dog. Alex wanted the cat. They’ve met, and the cat won.

      Then talk about it

      What would a pet say about the two of you?

  17. 55Your ex is at the same wedding as you. Would you rather go over together and say hi, or hide by the buffet together?

      You both say “Go over together and say hi”

      You went over together. It lasted nine seconds. Everyone’s still recovering.

      You both say “Hide by the buffet together”

      You both hid by the buffet. It has never been so well guarded.

      You split

      Sam went over to say hi. Alex watched from behind the buffet, with a plate.

      Then talk about it

      Who would you most like to avoid at a party?

  18. 77For a whole year, would you rather do all the cooking and no cleaning, or all the cleaning and no cooking?

      You both say “Do all the cooking, no cleaning”

      Two cooks, no cleaners. You now own one clean fork.

      You both say “Do all the cleaning, no cooking”

      Two cleaners, no cooks. A spotless kitchen, and a lot of cereal.

      You split

      Sam cooks. Alex cleans. It’s the best deal you ever made.

      Then talk about it

      What’s the one chore you’d pay never to do?

Would you rather questions about food (10)

Nobody lies about food for long. These are easy to answer and oddly revealing: who shares, who steals, and who says “I don’t mind” and means the opposite.

• 1. 3Tonight’s dinner: would you rather go ambitious and ruin it, or order the usual, again?

     You both say “Go ambitious and ruin it”

     Two chefs, one smoke alarm, cereal for dinner.

     You both say “Order the usual, again”

     The usual. The delivery driver now asks how your mom is doing.

     You split

     Sam attempted a soufflé. Alex quietly ordered the usual, just in case.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the best thing the two of you ever ruined?

  2. 16The dessert menu arrives. Would you rather order your own and guard it, or share one and count every bite?

     You both say “Order your own and guard it”

     You each ordered your own. You each tried the other’s. Treaties were broken.

     You both say “Share one and count every bite”

     One dessert. You counted. The count is disputed.

     You split

     Sam ordered a whole dessert. Alex said “just one bite” eleven times.

     Then talk about it

     Who says they’re not hungry, then eats yours?

  3. 17There’s one slice left and you both want it. Would you rather eat it and own it, or leave it and resent them for a week?

     You both say “Eat it and own it”

     You met at the fridge at 2am, both reaching. It was never spoken of again.

     You both say “Leave it, resent them for a week”

     Neither of you touched it. It’s still there. It has a name now.

     You split

     Sam ate it. Alex has told three friends.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the pettiest thing you’ve ever kept score of?

  4. 18Cooking together in one small kitchen: would you rather be head chef giving orders, or sous chef who chops and judges?

     You both say “Be head chef, they take orders”

     Two head chefs. A spoon was thrown. Neither of you will say by whom.

     You both say “Be sous chef, chop and judge”

     Two sous chefs, chopping. Neither of you turned the stove on.

     You split

     Sam ran the kitchen. Alex chopped, and kept notes for the review.

     Then talk about it

     Who’s actually in charge in your kitchen?

  5. 19Their food looks better than yours. Would you rather steal from their plate, or suffer and stare at it all evening?

     You both say “Steal from their plate”

     Two forks, crossing. You now order one dish and fight for it.

     You both say “Suffer and stare at it”

     You both sat there, wanting the other’s food, saying nothing.

     You split

     Sam went in with a fork. Alex watched it happen and said “it’s fine”.

     Then talk about it

     When did you last say “it’s fine” when it wasn’t?

  6. 32Breakfast in bed: would you rather make it and sleep in the crumbs, or get it and praise the burnt toast?

     You both say “Make it and sleep in the crumbs”

     You both made it. Two trays met on the stairs.

     You both say “Get it and praise the burnt toast”

     You both stayed in bed, waiting. Breakfast happened around eleven.

     You split

     Sam brought the tray. Alex called the toast “rustic”, and meant it kindly.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the kindest thing the other one has ever burnt for you?

  7. 35For a whole year, would you rather choose dinner every single night, or never choose and eat whatever you’re given?

     You both say “Choose every night for a year”

     You both chose. Two dinners, every night, for a year.

     You both say “Never choose, eat anything”

     Neither of you chose. You’ve been saying “I don’t mind” since Tuesday.

     You split

     Sam chose. Alex ate it, and said “I don’t mind” with a certain tone.

     Then talk about it

     What do you mean when you say “I don’t mind”?

  8. 37Their family’s famous dish needs salt. Would you rather say it’s the best you’ve had, or ask for the recipe and fix it?

     You both say “Say it’s the best you’ve had”

     You each lied about the other’s family recipe. Both recipes are safe.

     You both say “Ask for the recipe, then fix it”

     You both fixed it. Two families now know.

     You split

     Sam had seconds and lied. Alex added salt when the coast was clear.

     Then talk about it

     What did you pretend to love at their family’s table?

  9. 72They’re very proud of a dish that isn’t great. Would you rather love it and eat it forever, or tell them it needs salt?

     You both say “Love it, eat it forever”

     You both praised each other’s worst dish. You now eat them weekly.

     You both say “Tell them it needs salt”

     You told each other. The food got better. It was a difficult month.

     You split

     Sam asked for seconds. Alex walked over with the salt.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the one dish they really do make well?

  10. 79They’ve made dinner far too hot. Would you rather eat it all, sweating and smiling, or reach for the milk and admit defeat?

      You both say “Eat it all, sweating and smiling”

      You both ate it all, crying, saying “it’s lovely”.

      You both say “Reach for the milk, admit defeat”

      You both reached for the milk at once. It was a relief.

      You split

      Sam finished the plate in tears. Alex was at the fridge by the second bite.

      Then talk about it

      What have you eaten just to make them happy?

Flirty would you rather questions for couples (7)

Flirty, and clean enough to read out at a table. The point of these is the look you get while they decide.

• 1. 12Your pet name for each other: would you rather shout it across the grocery store, or never say it outside the house?

     You both say “Shout it across the grocery store”

     Aisle five knows. Aisle five always knew.

     You both say “Never say it outside the house”

     That name will die with the two of you. Keep it that way.

     You split

     Sam shouted it across aisle five. Alex left by the other exit.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the worst name you’ve called each other, lovingly?

  2. 20Someone’s flirting with your partner. Would you rather step in and take their hand, or stay back and enjoy the show?

     You both say “Step in and take their hand”

     You both stepped in. It turned out to be the waiter, being a waiter.

     You both say “Stay back and enjoy the show”

     You both stayed back, watching. You scored it out of ten in the car.

     You split

     Sam stepped in. Alex ordered another drink and watched it all.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the nicest thing a stranger has said to you two?

  3. 21You’re on opposite sides of a party. Would you rather wink at them all night, or text them from ten feet away?

     You both say “Wink at them all night”

     You winked at each other all night. Two people asked if you were all right.

     You both say “Text them from ten feet away”

     Ten feet apart, texting. You were the worst guests and the happiest.

     You split

     Sam winked across the room. Alex replied by text, ten feet away.

     Then talk about it

     What’s your look? The one only they would catch.

  4. 28It’s the last dance at a wedding. Would you rather drag them onto the floor, or sit it out, hold hands and heckle?

     You both say “Drag them onto the floor”

     You both went for it. People stepped back to give you room, and not kindly.

     You both say “Sit it out, hold hands, heckle”

     You sat it out together, holding hands, scoring the other dancers.

     You split

     Sam went for the dance floor. Alex went limp, and was dragged.

     Then talk about it

     What’s your dance? Show me. Now.

  5. 36You catch them staring at you. Would you rather stare back till someone laughs, or pretend you haven’t noticed?

     You both say “Stare back till someone laughs”

     You stared at each other till one of you cracked. It’s still going, in spirit.

     You both say “Pretend you haven’t noticed”

     You’ve both been pretending not to notice for years. It’s your best secret.

     You split

     Sam stared right back. Alex studied the menu, a little pink.

     Then talk about it

     When did you last catch them looking at you?

  6. 70You get one compliment a day from now on. Would you rather hear it out loud in public, or whispered so only you can hear?

     You both say “Hear it out loud, in public”

     Out loud, in public, every day. Your friends have asked you to stop.

     You both say “Hear it whispered, only you”

     A whisper a day. Whatever’s so funny, it stays between you.

     You split

     Sam announced it across the room. Alex leaned in and said it quietly.

     Then talk about it

     What’s a compliment from them that you think about?

  7. 78Would you rather hold hands everywhere, always, or only in the dark?

     You both say “Do it everywhere, always”

     Everywhere, always. You’ve had to learn to open doors one-handed.

     You both say “Only do it in the dark”

     Only in the dark at the movies. It still counts for a lot.

     You split

     Sam reached out. Alex checked who was looking first.

     Then talk about it

     When did you last hold hands for no reason?

Romantic would you rather questions for couples (11)

The sweet ones. They work when you read them slowly and ask for the reason behind the answer.

• 1. 9It’s Sunday morning. Would you rather stay in bed till noon, or be up at seven with the whole day ahead?

     You both say “Stay in bed till noon”

     Noon came. You both claimed you’d been awake for hours.

     You both say “Be up at seven, whole day ahead”

     Up at seven. By ten you’d both run out of day.

     You split

     Alex was up at seven. Sam was found at noon, in the same position.

     Then talk about it

     What’s your perfect Sunday, hour by hour?

  2. 34It’s pouring, with one umbrella. Would you rather share it and both get half soaked, or give it up and walk behind them?

     You both say “Share it, both get half soaked”

     Two people under one umbrella, both soaked, both sure it was working.

     You both say “Give it up, walk behind them”

     You both handed it over. The umbrella walked home alone.

     You split

     Sam held it over you both. Alex walked behind, soaked, feeling noble.

     Then talk about it

     What small thing does the other one do without being asked?

  3. 48For your anniversary, would you rather get a huge surprise, or exactly what’s on the list?

     You both say “Get a huge surprise”

     You surprised each other on the same night, in different restaurants.

     You both say “Get exactly what’s on the list”

     You swapped lists and got exactly what you asked for. Nobody cried.

     You split

     Sam booked a surprise. Alex handed over a list with links.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the best thing the other one ever gave you?

  4. 54They’re in love with a hobby you don’t get. Would you rather take it up properly with them, or cheer from the couch forever?

     You both say “Take it up properly with them”

     You took up each other’s hobbies. You’re both awful. You go every week.

     You both say “Cheer from the couch forever”

     You cheer each other on from the sidelines. Very supportive, very seated.

     You split

     Sam bought all the gear. Alex cheered from the bleachers, with snacks.

     Then talk about it

     What hobby could you two actually share?

  5. 69For the rest of your life, would you rather get a small note every week, or one huge speech, one time only?

     You both say “Get a small note every week”

     A note a week. You have a drawer. You won’t tell anyone about the drawer.

     You both say “Get one huge speech, one time only”

     One speech each, once. People who were there still mention it.

     You split

     Sam leaves notes in coat pockets. Alex is saving it all for one great speech.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the smallest thing they’ve done that you still remember?

  6. 111You can borrow one thing from your partner for life. Would you rather borrow their calm, or their way with a joke?

     You both say “Borrow their calm”

     You swapped calm. Somehow you’re both still waiting for it to work.

     You both say “Borrow their way with a joke”

     You swapped jokes. At last you each laugh at the other’s.

     You split

     Sam took the calm. Alex took the jokes. It’s been very quiet.

     Then talk about it

     What do you most admire in the other one?

  7. 122Fifty years on, on a bench: would you rather still argue over the same thing, or agree on absolutely everything?

     You both say “Still argue over the same thing”

     Fifty years on, still arguing about the thermostat. Perfect.

     You both say “Agree on absolutely everything”

     You agree on everything now. It’s a little quiet. You wouldn’t change it.

     You split

     Sam wanted the old argument. Alex wanted peace. You’re arguing about it now.

     Then talk about it

     What will you still be arguing about at 85?

  8. 123You get one day on repeat forever. Would you rather keep the best day you’ve ever had, or one ordinary Tuesday?

     You both say “Keep the best day you’ve ever had”

     The best day, forever. You know every line by now, and you still laugh.

     You both say “Keep one ordinary Tuesday”

     One ordinary Tuesday, forever. That’s the whole film. Roll credits.

     You split

     Sam chose the best day. Alex chose a Tuesday, and said it was the same one.

     Then talk about it

     Which ordinary day with them would you keep?

  9. 124You’ve got one last big trip. Would you rather go back to where you met, or somewhere you’ve never been?

     You both say “Go back to where you met”

     You went back. It’s a phone store now. You stood outside and held hands.

     You both say “Go somewhere you’ve never been”

     Somewhere new, after all these years. You got lost on purpose.

     You split

     Sam went back to where it started. Alex came too, with a map of somewhere else.

     Then talk about it

     Where did it really start?

  10. 125If the two of you were a film, would you rather be a comedy with some sad bits, or a love story with bad jokes?

      You both say “Be a comedy with some sad bits”

      A comedy. You kept the bloopers, and they’re the best part.

      You both say “Be a love story with bad jokes”

      A love story, with terrible jokes. People cried, then groaned.

      You split

      Sam called it a comedy. Alex called it a love story. You share the credit.

      Then talk about it

      What’s the first scene? Who plays you?

  11. 126Years from now, everyone asks for your secret. Would you rather say it was all the laughing, or pure stubbornness?

      You both say “Say it was all the laughing”

      All the laughing, you said. Then you laughed, and they didn’t get the joke.

      You both say “Say it was pure stubbornness”

      Pure stubbornness, you said. Neither of you would be the first to leave.

      You split

      Sam said laughing. Alex said stubbornness. You’re still arguing about it.

      Then talk about it

      What do you want people to say about the two of you?

Would you rather questions for date night (5)

Questions about the date, for the date. Ask one before you order, and let the answer decide where the evening goes.

• 1. 42Date night at home: would you rather build a fort with no phones, or cook a dish you can’t spell?

     You both say “Build a fort, no phones”

     A fort, two flashlights, one collapse. Best date all year.

     You both say “Cook a dish you can’t spell”

     Dinner was from Peru, approximately. You ate it on the floor.

     You split

     Sam built the fort. Alex carried a burnt stir-fry into it.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the best date we’ve had that cost nothing?

  2. 44From now on, would you rather plan every date yourself, or be surprised every time?

     You both say “Plan every date”

     You both planned it. Two bookings, two restaurants, one very long evening.

     You both say “Be surprised every time”

     You both waited to be surprised. You’re still on the couch.

     You split

     Sam planned everything. Alex turned up surprised, as agreed.

     Then talk about it

     What’s a date you’d love and have never mentioned?

  3. 56For the next ten years of date nights, would you rather keep the same table every week, or go somewhere you can’t pronounce?

     You both say “Keep the same table, every week”

     Same table, every week. They’ve stopped bringing the menus.

     You both say “Go somewhere you can’t pronounce”

     You’ve pointed at forty menus and loved about half of what came.

     You split

     Sam sat at the usual table. Alex booked somewhere else and sent photos.

     Then talk about it

     Where’s “your place”? Do you have one?

  4. 71Date night with a twist: would you rather meet as strangers at a bar, or stay in and dress up anyway?

     You both say “Meet as strangers at a bar”

     You met as strangers. One of you had a fake job. It got out of hand.

     You both say “Stay in and dress up anyway”

     You stayed in, dressed up, and ate noodles in your best clothes.

     You split

     Sam waited at the bar as “Jordan”. Alex was at home in a suit, with noodles.

     Then talk about it

     Who would you be if you met them tonight?

  5. 82One date, one rule: would you rather have no phones all night, or say yes to everything all night?

     You both say “Have no phones all night”

     No phones. You had to remember what each other’s faces do.

     You both say “Say yes to everything all night”

     Yes to everything. You now own a kayak.

     You split

     Sam put the phone in a drawer. Alex said yes to the kayak.

     Then talk about it

     What would you say yes to if I asked tonight?

Would you rather questions for couples over text (5)

Most of a modern relationship happens in a thread. Send one of these and see how long the three dots last.

• 1. 38Your partner texts “fine.” with a period. Would you rather ask what’s wrong right away, or reply “fine.” and start a war?

     You both say “Ask what’s wrong right away”

     You both asked what was wrong. It was a typo. You talked for an hour.

     You both say “Reply “fine.” and start a war”

     “Fine.” “Fine.” “Fine.” Four days of it. Historians will study this thread.

     You split

     Sam asked what was wrong. Alex replied “nothing.”, also with a period.

     Then talk about it

     What does a period mean when they text it?

  2. 39You see them typing, then nothing. Would you rather ask what they deleted, or say nothing and wonder all day?

     You both say “Ask what they deleted”

     You both asked. You’d both deleted the same joke.

     You both say “Say nothing, wonder all day”

     Three dots, then nothing, twice a day. It’s how you flirt now.

     You split

     Sam asked what got deleted. Alex said “nothing” and deleted that too.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the last text you typed to them and didn’t send?

  3. 40They text you from the next room. Would you rather get up and answer in person, or text back and stay under the blanket?

     You both say “Get up and answer in person”

     You met in the hallway, phones in hand, both a little embarrassed.

     You both say “Text back, stay under the blanket”

     One house, two rooms, forty texts. The Wi-Fi has never worked harder.

     You split

     Sam walked over to answer. Alex texted “where’d you go?”

     Then talk about it

     What do you say better by text than out loud?

  4. 41Your text to them landed in the family chat. Would you rather own it and send a second one, or say your phone was hacked?

     You both say “Own it and send a second one”

     You both owned it. The group chat has a new favorite couple.

     You both say “Say your phone was hacked”

     You were both hacked, apparently, on the same day. It fooled no one.

     You split

     Sam owned it. Alex changed phones, and maybe numbers.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the worst text you’ve sent to the wrong person?

  5. 81For one whole year, would you rather reach each other by text only, or by phone calls only?

     You both say “Texts only”

     A year of texts. You now sign off with initials, like bankers.

     You both say “Phone calls only”

     A year of calls. You answer “hello?” exactly like your dad.

     You split

     Alex called. Sam let it ring, then texted “what’s up”.

     Then talk about it

     When do you want a call, not a text?

Would you rather questions for your girlfriend or boyfriend (5)

For when you’re still finding out. These are about first times: the first trip, the first post, the first time you meet their friends.

• 1. 87You’re meeting their friends. Would you rather go big and tell your best story, or stay quiet, smile and learn names?

     You both say “Go big, tell your best story”

     Two people telling their best story at once. The friends took notes.

     You both say “Stay quiet, smile, learn names”

     You both sat there nodding. Everyone decided you were very deep.

     You split

     Sam told the raccoon story. Alex learned all nine names.

     Then talk about it

     What did you get wrong about each other’s friends?

  2. 88You’re dating someone new. Would you rather post them on day one, or stay offline for a year?

     You both say “Post on day one”

     You both posted. Your moms commented within the minute.

     You both say “Stay offline for a year”

     A year in, your friends still think you’re a rumor.

     You split

     Sam posted the photo. Alex appears in it as a hand holding a coffee.

     Then talk about it

     What do you want people to know about us?

  3. 89Their old hoodie is very soft. Would you rather steal it and deny it, or ask nicely and give it back?

     You both say “Steal it and deny it”

     You stole each other’s. It’s a fair trade and neither of you admits it.

     You both say “Ask nicely, give it back”

     You returned them, washed and folded. Very adult. A little sad.

     You split

     Sam has the hoodie. Alex has stopped asking.

     Then talk about it

     What of theirs do you have right now?

  4. 90Three months in, your first trip: would you rather go far and test everything, or stay close, an hour from home?

     You both say “Go far, test everything”

     Far from home, one phone charger between you. You came back closer.

     You both say “Stay close, an hour from home”

     One hour from home. You still got lost, happily.

     You split

     Sam booked flights. Alex booked a nearby cabin, refundable.

     Then talk about it

     Where would you take me first, if it was up to you?

  5. 117For a first “I love you”, would you rather say it first, shaking, or wait for them to say it?

     You both say “Say it first, shaking”

     You both said it at once, over a pizza. Neither of you has backed down.

     You both say “Wait for them to say it”

     You both waited. For months. It came out in a parking lot.

     You split

     Sam said it first. Alex said “thank you”, and has never lived it down.

     Then talk about it

     When did you first want to say it?

Would you rather questions for newlyweds (4)

The first year has its own small wars: thank-you cards, two sets of furniture, whose family gets the holidays.

• 1. 83The wedding thank-you cards: would you rather write them all in one night, or go slow and miss every deadline?

     You both say “Write them all in one night”

     Eighty cards, one night, one hand cramp each.

     You both say “Go slow, miss every deadline”

     It’s been a year. The aunts have noticed.

     You split

     Sam wrote forty cards. Alex licked four stamps and retired.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the best gift you got, really?

  2. 84Your first holidays as newlyweds: would you rather host both families yourselves, or hide out, just the two of you?

     You both say “Host both families yourselves”

     Two families, one oven. You learned a lot about both.

     You both say “Hide out, just the two of you”

     You told everyone the roads were bad. You had pancakes.

     You split

     Sam sent invitations. Alex booked a cabin with no signal.

     Then talk about it

     What tradition do you want to start, just you two?

  3. 85You’re moving in and they own one awful chair. Would you rather keep the chair, for love, or let it get lost in the move?

     You both say “Keep the chair, for love”

     You kept both awful chairs. They face each other, like old enemies.

     You both say “Let it get lost in the move”

     Both chairs got lost in the move. Neither of you can explain it.

     You split

     Sam kept the chair. Alex keeps trying to donate it.

     Then talk about it

     What of theirs did you secretly want gone?

  4. 86Your first fight as newlyweds: would you rather tell your best friend everything, or keep it between you two?

     You both say “Tell your best friend everything”

     Both best friends now know. They’ve started a small support group.

     You both say “Keep it between you two”

     It stayed between you. It also stayed in the room for a day.

     You split

     Sam called a friend. Alex told everyone “we’re great”, loudly.

     Then talk about it

     Who do you go to when it’s about us?

Would you rather questions for married couples (4)

For two people who think they’ve heard all of each other’s answers. Most of them haven’t.

• 1. 118Your wedding video: would you rather watch it every anniversary, or never watch it and keep the memory?

     You both say “Watch it every anniversary”

     You watch it every year. You still spot the cousin who left early.

     You both say “Never watch it, keep the memory”

     It’s on a disc in a box. Neither of you owns anything that plays a disc.

     You split

     Sam pressed play. Alex asked if it could wait till next year.

     Then talk about it

     What do you remember from that day that the video missed?

  2. 119Ten years married, one free night: would you rather go out like it’s a first date, or stay in, phones off, early bed?

     You both say “Go out like it’s a first date”

     You went out. By nine you were comparing calendars, happily.

     You both say “Stay in, phones off, early bed”

     Asleep by 9:40. Best night of the year, no contest.

     You split

     Sam got dressed up. Alex changed out of pajamas, complaining.

     Then talk about it

     What do you want more of, just the two of us?

  3. 120You get one marriage rule for life. Would you rather never go to bed angry, or never start a fight hungry?

     You both say “Never go to bed angry”

     You stayed up angry till 4am, on principle.

     You both say “Never start a fight hungry”

     There are granola bars in every room now. Peace has broken out.

     You split

     Sam won’t sleep on it. Alex won’t discuss it before lunch.

     Then talk about it

     What rule do you two actually live by?

  4. 121You find your vows in a drawer. Would you rather read them out at dinner, or leave them where they are?

     You both say “Read them out at dinner”

     You read them out. You’ve kept about half. The good half.

     You both say “Leave them in the drawer”

     They’re in the drawer. You both know roughly what they said.

     You split

     Sam read them aloud. Alex pointed out a promise about the garage.

     Then talk about it

     Which promise have you kept best?

Travel would you rather questions (9)

A trip shows you how the other one handles a plan going wrong. Ask these before you book.

• 1. 5On a seven-hour drive, would you rather do all the driving, or navigate and guard the snacks?

     You both say “Do all the driving”

     You both wanted the wheel. There was a talk at a rest stop.

     You both say “Navigate and guard the snacks”

     Neither of you would drive. You ate the snacks in the driveway.

     You split

     Sam drove. Alex ate the good snacks and called it navigation.

     Then talk about it

     Who’s the worst passenger? Do an impression.

  2. 27You’re lost and it’s getting dark. Would you rather stop and ask a stranger, or drive on and call it scenic?

     You both say “Stop and ask a stranger”

     You both asked at once. The stranger gave you two different answers.

     You both say “Drive on and call it scenic”

     It was very scenic. You saw it twice.

     You split

     Sam wanted to ask. Alex said “I know a shortcut” for an hour.

     Then talk about it

     Who’s the one who’s “not lost”?

  3. 43You’ve got a free week away. Would you rather take the beach with no plans and no shoes, or eleven museums and a spreadsheet?

     You both say “Take the beach, no plans, no shoes”

     One week, no shoes. Neither of you could say what day it was.

     You both say “Take eleven museums, a spreadsheet”

     Eleven museums. The spreadsheet has been framed.

     You split

     Alex brought a spreadsheet to the beach. Sam brought no shoes to the museum.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the best trip you’ve had together, and why?

  4. 58Your flight’s been canceled. Would you rather sleep on the airport floor, or rent a car and drive through the dark?

     You both say “Sleep on the airport floor”

     Two coats, one bag for a pillow. You still bring up that floor fondly.

     You both say “Rent a car, drive through the dark”

     You drove all night. You got there first, and could not speak.

     You split

     Sam found a spot on the floor. Alex was at the rental desk with a plan.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the worst journey you’ve made together?

  5. 59You’re in a new city. Would you rather use one paper map and no phones all day, or book every minute in advance?

     You both say “Use one paper map, no phones”

     No phones. You found the best café in the city and can never find it again.

     You both say “Book every minute in advance”

     Every minute booked. You saw it all, at a slight jog.

     You split

     Sam unfolded the map. Alex checked the booking, then checked it again.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the best wrong turn you’ve ever taken?

  6. 60You’re sharing one suitcase for a week. Would you rather pack it for both of you, or let them pack it with no looking?

     You both say “Pack it for both of you”

     You both packed it. Eleven chargers. No socks.

     You both say “Let them pack it, no looking”

     You each trusted the other. The suitcase arrived empty.

     You split

     Sam packed for two. Alex opened it on the beach and found a raincoat.

     Then talk about it

     What would they pack for you that you’d never pack?

  7. 61Your vacation photos: would you rather do ten takes till it’s perfect, or keep it blurry, thumb in the shot?

     You both say “Do ten takes till it’s perfect”

     Ten takes each. The sunset was gone by the end. The photo’s great.

     You both say “Keep it blurry, thumb in the shot”

     Forty blurry photos of a thumb. You love every one.

     You split

     Sam asked a stranger for one more. Alex was already eating.

     Then talk about it

     Which photo of you two would you save first?

  8. 62It’s day one of camping and it’s pouring. Would you rather stay and make it a story, or drive home and never speak of it?

     You both say “Stay and make it a story”

     You stayed. The tent didn’t. It’s your best story.

     You both say “Drive home, never speak of it”

     You drove home in silence and ordered in. The tent is still in the car.

     You split

     Sam held up the tent. Alex sat in the car with the engine running.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the worst plan you’ve stuck to together?

  9. 80On a six-hour road trip, would you rather hear their playlist the whole way, or drive in silence the whole way?

     You both say “Hear their playlist the whole way”

     You played each other’s playlists. Now you both know all the words.

     You both say “Drive in silence the whole way”

     Six hours of silence. The best talk you’ve had all year.

     You split

     Sam let their music play. Alex turned it down one notch every hour.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the one song you’re not allowed to play in the car?

Would you rather questions about your memories (10)

Two people never remember the same relationship. These get you comparing notes, and one of you always has the date wrong.

• 1. 52When people ask how you met, would you rather tell the true version, or keep the better one?

     You both say “Tell the true version”

     The true version. It’s worse, and you both tell it anyway.

     You both say “Keep the better version”

     You keep the better version. By now it has a helicopter in it.

     You split

     Sam tells it straight. Alex has added a helicopter.

     Then talk about it

     Tell how you met, one version each. Who’s lying?

  2. 63You get your first date over again. Would you rather do it exactly the same, or fix everything that went wrong?

     You both say “Do it exactly the same”

     You did it all again. Just as awkward, and you were just as happy.

     You both say “Fix everything that went wrong”

     You fixed everything. It was smooth, and a little less funny.

     You split

     Sam found the old jacket. Alex booked somewhere with better lighting.

     Then talk about it

     What went wrong on your first date, really?

  3. 64You can redo your first kiss. Would you rather keep it, awkward and all, or redo it with what you know now?

     You both say “Keep it, awkward and all”

     You kept it. Bad timing, bumped noses, the lot. It’s yours.

     You both say “Redo it with what you know now”

     You redid it, knowing everything. Reader, it was better.

     You split

     Sam kept the first one. Alex would like a word about technique.

     Then talk about it

     Who remembers it better? Compare notes.

  4. 65You’ve found every message you ever sent each other. Would you rather read them together out loud, or delete the first year?

     You both say “Read them together, out loud”

     You read them aloud. You were both so much worse at this than you remember.

     You both say “Delete the first year”

     First year gone. The exclamation marks will never be counted.

     You split

     Sam started reading. Alex went for the delete button.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the first message you remember from them?

  5. 66You know the exact moment you knew. Would you rather tell them exactly when, or keep it for yourself?

     You both say “Tell them exactly when”

     You told each other. It turned out to be different days, a year apart.

     You both say “Keep it for yourself”

     You each kept it. Both of you know exactly when, and you smile about it.

     You split

     Sam told the whole story. Alex just smiled, and has kept it.

     Then talk about it

     When did you know? Say the day.

  6. 67You find your first playlist. Would you rather play it loud and cringe together, or leave it where it was?

     You both say “Play it loud and cringe together”

     You played it all. You still know every word, and that’s the embarrassing part.

     You both say “Leave it where it was”

     You left it. Some songs should stay in that car.

     You split

     Sam pressed play. Alex asked to skip the track, then sang.

     Then talk about it

     What song takes you right back to the start?

  7. 95You get one look outside of time. Would you rather see the day you met from their side, or see one day ten years ahead?

     You both say “See the day you met, their side”

     You saw the day you met from the other side. You both looked nervous.

     You both say “See one day, ten years ahead”

     You peeked ten years ahead. Neither of you will say what you saw.

     You split

     Sam went back. Alex went forward. You met in the middle, on a Tuesday.

     Then talk about it

     What do you remember about that day that they don’t?

  8. 101Would you rather go back and live your first year together again, or stay right where you are?

     You both say “Go back and do it again”

     You went back. Same bad apartment, same bad haircuts, same two of you.

     You both say “Stay right where you are”

     You stayed right here. You’d have to be crazy to give this up.

     You split

     Sam looked back. Alex said stay, and meant here, with you.

     Then talk about it

     What do you miss from your first year? What don’t you?

  9. 115Your first place together comes up for sale. Would you rather buy it back one day, or never go back and leave it as it was?

     You both say “Buy it back one day”

     You bought it back. The faucet still drips. You cried a little.

     You both say “Never go back, leave it as it was”

     You never went back. In your heads it still has that terrible couch.

     You split

     Sam looks it up online sometimes. Alex crosses the street to avoid it.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the first thing you remember about living together?

  10. 116You get to live one year again. Would you rather relive the year you met, or the hardest one, unafraid because you know you made it?

      You both say “Relive the year you met”

      The year you met, all over again. Same nerves, better shoes.

      You both say “Relive the hardest one, unafraid”

      The hard one, knowing the ending. You were kinder to each other this time.

      You split

      Sam went back to the start. Alex went back to the hard year, and held on.

      Then talk about it

      Which year made you who you are as two people?

Deep would you rather questions for couples (12)

Slower ones, for later in the evening. There’s no joke to hide behind, so give each one a minute.

• 1. 31You come home after a bad day. Would you rather tell them all of it right away, or take ten quiet minutes, then talk?

     You both say “Tell them all of it, right away”

     You both started talking at the door. Neither of you took your coat off.

     You both say “Take ten quiet minutes, then talk”

     Ten quiet minutes each. Then the stairs, side by side, then all of it.

     You split

     Sam started in the hallway. Alex held up one finger: ten minutes.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the best thing they can do when you walk in like that?

  2. 94Would you rather always say what you feel, or always know what they feel?

     You both say “Always say what you feel”

     You both say it all, constantly. You can no longer finish a movie.

     You both say “Always know what they feel”

     You each know what the other feels. Dinner is silent, and lovely.

     You split

     Sam says everything. Alex already knew.

     Then talk about it

     When did you last guess what the other felt and get it wrong?

  3. 99You’ll carry one regret for life. Would you rather regret something you did together, or something you never tried?

     You both say “Regret something you did together”

     You did it. It went badly. You tell that story at every dinner.

     You both say “Regret something you never tried”

     You never tried. You both still bring it up, every time it rains.

     You split

     Sam said let’s do it. Alex said let’s not. You’re both still right.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the one thing you’d regret not doing together?

  4. 100Would you rather ask them anything and get the whole truth, once, or never feel you need to ask?

     You both say “Ask anything, get the truth once”

     You each got one true answer. You both spent it on the same old argument.

     You both say “Never feel you need to ask”

     You never needed to ask. One of you looks up, the other pours the coffee.

     You split

     Sam asked the one question. Alex had seen it coming for years.

     Then talk about it

     What would you ask?

  5. 106A letter arrives from the two of you at 80. Would you rather read it now, or wait and find out for yourselves?

     You both say “Read it now”

     You read it. It said “stop worrying about the furnace”.

     You both say “Wait and find out yourselves”

     It’s still sealed, in the drawer with the takeout menus.

     You split

     Sam had it open by lunch. Alex made them promise not to say.

     Then talk about it

     What would you want your 80-year-old selves to tell you?

  6. 107Would you rather read one honest page of their diary about you, or never know and trust the look on their face?

     You both say “Read one page of their diary”

     You swapped one page each. Mostly lists. One line you’ll keep forever.

     You both say “Never know, trust the look”

     You never looked. You read each other’s faces, and that has been enough.

     You split

     Sam read the page. Alex didn’t, and now wants to know what it said.

     Then talk about it

     What do you hope they’d write about you?

  7. 109Would you rather let them see every bad mood you ever have, or show your best and hide the rest?

     You both say “Let them see every bad mood”

     No hiding. Every bad mood, every Monday. It’s why you trust each other.

     You both say “Show your best, hide the rest”

     You both keep the worst to yourselves. It’s tidy, and a little lonely.

     You split

     Sam shows it all. Alex comes out smiling, and says it’s fine.

     Then talk about it

     What do you hide from them on a bad day?

  8. 110Would you rather be loved for who you are right now, or for who you’re becoming?

     You both say “Be loved for who you are now”

     You’re each loved exactly as you are. Neither of you has been asked to change.

     You both say “Be loved for who you’re becoming”

     You’re each someone’s work in progress. It’s the kindest pressure there is.

     You split

     Sam wanted to be loved as is. Alex is still under construction.

     Then talk about it

     What do you see in them that they don’t see yet?

  9. 113Ten years from now, would you rather laugh more, with less spark, or have more spark and less laughing?

     You both say “Laugh more, with less spark”

     You laugh all day. The spark is there, it just has to wait its turn.

     You both say “Have more spark, less laughing”

     You still can’t look at each other at parties. You’ve stopped telling jokes.

     You split

     Sam chose the laughing. Alex chose the spark. You laughed about it.

     Then talk about it

     When do you two feel most like yourselves?

  10. 127One last thing to say to each other tonight. Would you rather say “I’d do it all again”, or “I’d do it better now”?

      You both say “Say “I’d do it all again””

      You both said you’d do it all again. Even the bad apartment.

      You both say “Say “I’d do it better now””

      You both said better. Neither of you has a plan, but you’re both in.

      You split

      Sam would do it all again. Alex would do it better. You’re both staying.

      Then talk about it

      What would you do differently, and what never?

  11. 128For the road from here, would you rather know every turn ahead, or know only who’s next to you?

      You both say “Know every turn ahead”

      You know every turn now. You’re still surprised by the view.

      You both say “Know only who’s next to you”

      You don’t know a single turn. You know who’s driving, and that’s plenty.

      You split

      Sam wanted the map. Alex wanted the passenger seat. You took both.

      Then talk about it

      What are you most looking forward to, just the two of you?

  12. 129You both wake up with no memory of each other. Would you rather find each other all over again, or trust you’d each be fine?

      You both say “Find each other all over again”

      You both went looking. You met at the same café. It took about a week.

      You both say “Trust you’d each be fine”

      You trusted it. Then you both turned up anyway. You happened to be passing.

      You split

      Sam went looking. Alex was fine for nine days, then went looking too.

      Then talk about it

      What would you tell a stranger about them first?

Hard would you rather questions for couples (17)

No easy way out of these, because both sides cost you something. If you land on different sides, that’s the good part.

• 1. 4It’s 11pm and you’re mid-argument. Would you rather stay up and finish it, or go to bed and finish it tomorrow?

     You both say “Stay up and finish it”

     You stayed up. By 2am neither of you could say what it was about.

     You both say “Go to bed, finish it tomorrow”

     You slept on it. By breakfast the argument had left the building.

     You split

     Sam wanted it settled tonight. Alex was asleep by the second point.

     Then talk about it

     Who’s better after a night’s sleep? Who’s worse?

  2. 14A friend tells you a secret. Would you rather tell your partner anyway, or keep it, even from them?

     You both say “Tell your partner anyway”

     No secret has ever survived your house.

     You both say “Keep it, even from them”

     You each know things the other doesn’t. Dinner is very polite.

     You split

     Sam passes on every secret. Alex keeps all of them and looks very calm.

     Then talk about it

     Is there a secret you’re allowed to keep from each other?

  3. 15They love a movie you secretly hate. Would you rather finally say so, or watch it every year and smile?

     You both say “Finally say so”

     You both confessed. Neither of you ever liked it. All those years.

     You both say “Watch it every year and smile”

     You both smiled through it again. It’s tradition now, and too late to stop.

     You split

     Sam finally said it. Alex has been smiling through it alone ever since.

     Then talk about it

     What do you pretend to like for the other one’s sake?

  4. 29Your partner’s wrong in front of friends. Would you rather correct them gently, right there, or bring it up at home?

     You both say “Correct them gently, right there”

     You both corrected each other, gently, in front of everyone. Dessert was short.

     You both say “Say nothing, bring it up at home”

     You both said nothing. The car ride home was very well informed.

     You split

     Sam corrected the date. Alex waited for the car, and had notes.

     Then talk about it

     When has the other one really had your back in public?

  5. 30They ask, “do I look tired?” Would you rather tell the truth, softly, or tell a beautiful lie?

     You both say “Tell the truth, softly”

     You told each other the truth. You both went to bed at eight.

     You both say “Tell a beautiful lie”

     You both look wonderful. You’ve both looked wonderful for years.

     You split

     Sam said “a little”. Alex said “never”, and got a better breakfast.

     Then talk about it

     What’s a kind lie you’d actually want to be told?

  6. 45Your best friend has an opinion of your partner. Would you rather hear what they really think, or let them keep pretending?

     You both say “Hear what they really think”

     You both said it out loud. Two friendships got much quieter at your house.

     You both say “Let them keep pretending”

     You both keep pretending. Those group dinners are award-level work.

     You split

     Sam asked for the truth. Alex is still pretending, and getting better at it.

     Then talk about it

     Which of each other’s friends do you like most?

  7. 49Would you rather swap phones for one full day, or agree never to look, ever?

     You both say “Swap for one full day”

     You swapped for a day. You both found out about the group chat.

     You both say “Agree never to look, ever”

     You never look. Neither of you knows what’s so funny in there.

     You split

     Sam offered a swap. Alex has changed the passcode.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the most embarrassing thing on your phone?

  8. 53You owe a week to family. Would you rather spend it at their family’s, or have your own family stay with you both?

     You both say “Spend it at their family’s”

     You each chose the other’s family. You spent the week in a car.

     You both say “Have your family stay with you”

     Both families, your home, one week. The guest towels never recovered.

     You split

     Sam packed for the in-laws. Alex unpacked the in-laws.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the strangest rule in each other’s family?

  9. 68They come home with a bad haircut and they love it. Would you rather say so today, or say nothing and let it grow out?

     You both say “Say so today”

     You told each other. Two hats were bought.

     You both say “Say nothing, let it grow out”

     You both said “it’s nice”. Six weeks passed in silence.

     You split

     Sam said so. Alex said “I like it”, looking just above it.

     Then talk about it

     How do you tell them something they don’t want to hear?

  10. 75Their friend needs your guest room. Would you rather say yes for a month, or say no and be the bad guy?

      You both say “Say yes, for a month”

      You said yes. It’s been a year. They have their own mug.

      You both say “Say no and be the bad guy”

      You said no. You’ve both been the bad guy since, and you’re quite good at it.

      You split

      Sam said “of course”. Alex went to look for the spare keys, slowly.

      Then talk about it

      Who’s the one who can’t say no?

  11. 76You’ve forgotten something important. Would you rather admit it at once, or fix it before they notice?

      You both say “Admit it at once”

      You both confessed at once. You’d both forgotten. It was a very good night.

      You both say “Fix it before they notice”

      You both went out for flowers and met at the store.

      You split

      Sam confessed at breakfast. Alex came home with flowers and a story.

      Then talk about it

      What’s the worst thing you’ve ever forgotten?

  12. 91One of you gets a big offer abroad. Would you rather move abroad together, or stay close to family?

      You both say “Move abroad together”

      You went. You still can’t order coffee, and you’ve never been happier.

      You both say “Stay close to family”

      You stayed. Sunday dinner has never missed a week.

      You split

      Sam packed two bags. Alex unpacked one of them.

      Then talk about it

      Is there a place you’d really go? What would you miss first?

  13. 92Would you rather never argue again, or keep arguing but always make up within an hour?

      You both say “Never argue again”

      No arguments, ever. You each keep a private list instead.

      You both say “Always make up within an hour”

      You still fight. Fifty-nine minutes, tops, then pancakes.

      You split

      Sam wanted peace. Alex wanted the making up. You’ve argued about it.

      Then talk about it

      What’s the best making up you’ve ever done?

  14. 93Would you rather know everything about your partner’s past, or none of it at all?

      You both say “Know all of it”

      You told each other everything. It took a week, and a lot of coffee.

      You both say “Know none of it at all”

      You started at zero. Your past begins the night you met.

      You split

      Sam asked for all of it. Alex put a finger in each ear.

      Then talk about it

      What’s one thing from before that you’d like them to know?

  15. 102When it all goes wrong, would you rather be told you’re right, or be held when you’re wrong?

      You both say “Be told you’re right”

      You both wanted to be right. Two winners, in two rooms.

      You both say “Be held when you’re wrong”

      You were both wrong and you both got held. Terrible for the argument.

      You split

      Sam wanted the verdict. Alex wanted the hug. Both arrived, late.

      Then talk about it

      What do you actually need after a bad day?

  16. 105Only one of your dreams can happen. Would you rather chase theirs and shelve yours, or chase yours while they shelve theirs?

      You both say “Chase theirs, shelve yours”

      You each gave up your dream for the other. That took some untangling.

      You both say “Chase yours, they shelve theirs”

      You both went for it. Two dreams, one calendar, a lot of voicemail.

      You split

      Sam shelved a dream so Alex could try. It’s remembered, in a good way.

      Then talk about it

      What are they doing that you’d never let them give up?

  17. 108The fight you keep having: would you rather end it with one of you giving in, or keep having it so nobody loses?

      You both say “End it, one of you gives in”

      You both offered to give in. Now you fight about who gets to.

      You both say “Keep having it, nobody loses”

      You’re still having it. It’s practically a family member.

      You split

      Sam wanted it over. Alex said “fine”, and there was a whole tone in it.

      Then talk about it

      What’s your fight? What’s it really about?

Would you rather questions about your future (6)

Where you’d live, how you’d spend a year, who you’d like to be at 70. A soft way into the big conversations.

• 1. 96For the rest of your lives, would you rather live ten minutes from everything, or an hour from anyone?

     You both say “Live ten minutes from everything”

     Ten minutes from everything. You still order in.

     You both say “Live an hour from anyone”

     An hour from anyone. You’ve named the fox.

     You split

     Sam wanted the city. Alex wanted the fox. You now own one very long commute.

     Then talk about it

     Where do you really see yourselves?

  2. 97For a big day, would you rather invite everyone you’ve ever met, or have just you two and a witness?

     You both say “Invite everyone you’ve ever met”

     Everyone you’ve ever met came. You two got four minutes together. Worth it.

     You both say “Have just you two and a witness”

     Just you two and a witness, who cried more than either of you.

     You split

     Sam sent three hundred invitations. Alex booked two seats.

     Then talk about it

     What would you keep, and what would you skip?

  3. 98You get a whole year off together. Would you rather see the whole world, or build one home from scratch?

     You both say “See the whole world”

     One year, one bag each, one argument about one bag.

     You both say “Build one home from scratch”

     One year, one house, several walls that are nearly straight.

     You split

     Sam sent a postcard from every country. Alex built the shelf to keep them on.

     Then talk about it

     Where would the first stop be, or the first brick?

  4. 103Twenty years from now, would you rather stay in the same town with the same faces, or go somewhere you both must learn?

     You both say “Stay in the same town, same faces”

     Same town, same faces. The baker knows your order, and your business.

     You both say “Go somewhere you both must learn”

     New language, new streets. You’re both terrible at it, together.

     You split

     Sam kept the old keys. Alex sent a brochure with a circle on it.

     Then talk about it

     What would you be sad to leave here?

  5. 104When you retire, would you rather live in a van with no fixed address, or keep a garden and never leave it?

     You both say “Live in a van, no fixed address”

     One van, no address. You’ve got a tan and strong opinions on parking lots.

     You both say “Keep a garden and never leave it”

     One garden. You’ve named the tomatoes, and you argue with the neighbor’s cat.

     You split

     Sam bought the van. Alex planted something that needs watering every day.

     Then talk about it

     What are you actually looking forward to?

  6. 114At 70, would you rather be the two still out dancing, or the two who know every neighbor?

     You both say “Be the two still out dancing”

     Two seventy-year-olds on a dance floor, and you’re not leaving first.

     You both say “Be the two who know every neighbor”

     You know every neighbor, every dog, and exactly what happened at number nine.

     You split

     Sam is out dancing. Alex is at the fence, and has news.

     Then talk about it

     What do you want to be known for on your street?

Would you rather questions for long distance couples (6)

For two people on two phones. Choose Send a link in the game and you’ll each pick from wherever you are.

• 1. 50You’ll be apart for three months. Would you rather call every night even with no news, or write one long letter every week?

     You both say “Call every night, news or no news”

     A call every night. By week six you were just watching each other eat.

     You both say “Write one long letter every week”

     A letter every week. You both keep them in the same kind of shoebox.

     You split

     Sam called every night. Alex replied with a letter that arrived in May.

     Then talk about it

     What would you want most if you were apart for three months?

  2. 51Would you rather get one handwritten love letter a year, or one short text every single day?

     You both say “Get one handwritten letter a year”

     One letter a year. You each know it by heart.

     You both say “Get a short text every day”

     Every day, one line. Mostly “home soon”. It’s the best thing you own.

     You split

     Sam writes once a year. Alex has sent four hundred texts about nothing.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the best thing the other one ever wrote to you?

  3. 57Miles apart, one free night: would you rather watch one movie together on a call, or trade voice notes about your day?

     You both say “Watch one movie together on a call”

     Two laptops, one movie, three seconds of delay. You both gasped twice.

     You both say “Trade voice notes about your day”

     Voice notes all night. Neither of you has ever said “anyway” so much.

     You split

     Sam pressed play. Alex sent six voice notes about the movie.

     Then talk about it

     What small thing would you miss most if you were apart?

  4. 73You’re eight time zones apart. Would you rather stay up till 3am for their call, or miss it and get some sleep?

     You both say “Stay up till 3am for their call”

     You both stayed up. Two zombies, very much in love.

     You both say “Miss it and get some sleep”

     You both slept. You spoke on Sunday, and it was enough.

     You split

     Sam stayed up till 3am. Alex sent a voice note from breakfast.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the most you’ve ever lost sleep over them?

  5. 74You’re saying goodbye at the station. Would you rather make it long and miss the train, or quick with no looking back?

     You both say “Make it long, miss the train”

     You both missed the train. And the next one.

     You both say “Make it quick, no looking back”

     One kiss, no looking back. You both looked back.

     You split

     Sam ran along the platform. Alex was in a seat, pretending to read.

     Then talk about it

     What’s the hardest goodbye you’ve had?

  6. 112One of you has to move for work. Would you rather follow them and start again, or stay and do a year long distance?

     You both say “Follow them and start again”

     You both offered to follow. You couldn’t work out who was going where.

     You both say “Stay, do a year long distance”

     A year of trains and Sunday night platforms. You both know the schedule.

     You split

     Sam packed up and followed. Alex still says thank you, mostly by making dinner.

     Then talk about it

     What would you need to hear before you said yes?

How to play would you rather as a couple

There’s one rule: you have to choose. “Neither” and “it depends” don’t count. When you land on different sides, each of you gets one minute to make your case, then you can change your mind.

Before you hear the answer, make your call on what your partner picked. The best moments are the ones where you were sure, and they said the other thing. In the game, a wrong call costs a toll: you answer that card’s question out loud.

Why this works on two people who already know each other

How to write your own

A good one costs something on both sides. If one option is clearly better, it’s a poll, not a dilemma. Make it about the two of you, keep it to something that could really happen, and give each option one funny detail. Then try the test we use: write what happens if you both pick the same, and what happens if you split. If you can’t, it isn’t a real fork yet.

Cards to save and send

Six of the forks as drawn cards. Tap one to open the full image, then save it, send it to your partner, or pin it.

Print them for a date night

Every question on one sheet with two boxes each, ready for a restaurant, a road trip or a night with no phones. It’s a real PDF, so link to it or put it in a wedding welcome bag.

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